Many women find it helpful to distinguish between parenting (the task/labor) and the child (the person). You can care for a child’s needs while still disliking the restrictive nature of motherhood itself. Seek Specialized Support:
Suppressing these feelings often makes them stronger. Admitting to yourself (or a professional) that this wasn't your choice is the first step toward managing the reality.
Feeling ashamed for not experiencing the "instant bond" or "joy" that society expects from mothers. Istemediyim Halda Ana Oldum
Feeling like your personal goals, career, or freedom have been permanently sidelined.
Occasional anger toward the situation, the partner, or even the child, followed by intense cycles of self-blame. Many women find it helpful to distinguish between
Becoming a parent when you weren't ready—or didn't want to—can lead to a complex "grief" for the life you planned. Common feelings include:
A therapist can help you process "maternal regret" without judgment. Admitting to yourself (or a professional) that this
You can find international helplines via Befrienders Worldwide or IASP .