Once you’re calm, focus on the solution rather than the person who upset you. The Bottom Line
If you feel like your "inner thermostat" is broken, here is how to start regaining control. 1. Recognize the "Body Signals" subtitle Anger Management
Anger rarely strikes without warning. Your body usually knows you’re mad before your brain does. Common physical signs include: A racing heart. Clenching your fists or teeth. A sudden feeling of being hot. Shallow, fast breathing. Once you’re calm, focus on the solution rather
The way we talk to ourselves determines how mad we get. If you tell yourself, "They did that on purpose just to annoy me!" your anger will skyrocket. Recognize the "Body Signals" Anger rarely strikes without
If you can survive the first 90 seconds without reacting, the physical "burn" will start to fade. Step away, count to ten, or focus on your breathing. Give the chemicals time to flush out of your system. 3. Identify the "Underlying" Emotion
We’ve all been there. Maybe it’s the driver who cut you off, the condescending email from a colleague, or a sink full of dishes when you’re exhausted. You feel that heat rise in your chest, your jaw tightens, and before you know it, you’ve said something you regret.
A brisk walk or a gym session can burn off adrenaline.
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Once you’re calm, focus on the solution rather than the person who upset you. The Bottom Line If you feel like your "inner thermostat" is broken, here is how to start regaining control. 1. Recognize the "Body Signals" Anger rarely strikes without warning. Your body usually knows you’re mad before your brain does. Common physical signs include: A racing heart. Clenching your fists or teeth. A sudden feeling of being hot. Shallow, fast breathing. The way we talk to ourselves determines how mad we get. If you tell yourself, "They did that on purpose just to annoy me!" your anger will skyrocket. If you can survive the first 90 seconds without reacting, the physical "burn" will start to fade. Step away, count to ten, or focus on your breathing. Give the chemicals time to flush out of your system. 3. Identify the "Underlying" Emotion We’ve all been there. Maybe it’s the driver who cut you off, the condescending email from a colleague, or a sink full of dishes when you’re exhausted. You feel that heat rise in your chest, your jaw tightens, and before you know it, you’ve said something you regret. A brisk walk or a gym session can burn off adrenaline. |
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